Never will I ever tell my children that their father loves them.
Never will I ever pretend he didn't and doesn't abuse them.
Never will I ever say something nice about their father.
Never will I ever teach my children to ignore, minimize, or normalize the abuse they suffered and continue to suffer just so I dont get in trouble for saying "not nice" things about their father and what he did to them.
Never will I ever accept that the family court system placed more importance on his parental rights than they did on my children's right to not be abused.
Never will I ever forgive him for what he did to them, nor will I pretend to forgive him.
Never will I ever teach my children to stay silent about their abuse by being silent about it myself.
Never will I ever lie to my children or keep secret from them what I did to try to stop his abuse of them because the court doesn't want to take any blame for their failure to protect my kids.
Never will I ever accept that it is wrong to tell my children that I took him to court to try to protect them.
Never will I ever teach my kids that they are not allowed to speak their truth or that I am not allowed to speak mine just to protect their abuser from accountability.
Never will agree with any judge or therapist or counselor that teaching my children to speak their truth by speaking my truth and allowing them to speak theirs whenever they need to makes me a bad parent.
Never will I accept that because he is their father that what he did is any more acceptable or forgivable than if it had been a stranger who hurt them!
Never will I ever teach my children that a parent who abused his/her child is somehow better than a stranger that abused them.
I REFUSE!!!!
